Hello beautiful people of the internet!
Can anyone relate to the following stuff about life?
It really really reallllly sucks not to have a best friend. I hang out with a group of 6ish friends and they are wonderful, smart, and beautiful people. But I can’t help but feel left out a lot of times. Sometimes it’s like they are trying to ignore me on purpose….. but then after a few weeks things go back to normal.
No one in my group has a definite best friend…. and it really sucks.
I don’tΒ have that one friend that I can truly share my deepest and darkest secrets with. The oneΒ where I can talk about nerdy stuff without them thinking I’m too serious. The one where I can talk about family issues. The one where we can make up completely stupid dances. The one where i can run to and hug and cry off all my worries.
I don’t have that one friend where we can be completely stupid together and not care about what others think.
There are 2 people in my friend group that are more…. popular? More socially pleasing? They just know what to say and when to say and they have that magic social charm. And everyone else in my group likes to hangout with them. And it seems like conversations don’t happen too much without those 2 “popular” people.
I don’t know that any one of my friends would consider me as their first choice. I feel all alone sometimes.
I’m not depressed or anything it’s just that I miss the old Β life where I had that definite best friend and partner in crime but she moved away π¦
xoxoxo
~Adelina
I understand very well what you are on about. Not feeling like you have that one person that you can just do you with.
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I understand what you are talking about. Not feeling like you actually have someone you can do you with. Sucks when you really think about it.
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At least it’s nice to know I’m not alone π
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Yes, I know the feeling only too well.
It sucks when there are so many people around and yet no one we feel connected to. But you can use this opportunity for self- discovery which will help you meet the right kind of crowd or help you appreciate quality solitude more!
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it’s nice to know I’m not alone π Thanks for the advice, it means a lot ππI’ll try it out the self discovery thing π
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Please do, it’s beneficial for mind, body and soul. Appreciate your solitude, that will open a patth to all good things in your life. Good day π
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Thank you ππ
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UGH, I get this! Thanks for writing it because I thought I was alone!
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I feel the exact same thing, I’m always hanging out with different people because I don’t have a constant “best friend”. And when I have out with a larger group, I feel so left out because within that group, there are pairs of besties π¦
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Same. It really sucks because you have to deal with psychology and social stuff from people and make sure no one gets offended. and even if I do find a great buddy, it’s real hard to ask them about this best friend stuff. I guess it just take time.ππ
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Yeah. I find that I become friends with people really quickly, but it’s never best friends π¦
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I’m the same way. I have a few friends where I live, but ever since I moved away from my BEST BEST friend, nothing feels the same.
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Same for me. It’s really hard to let go especially when no one understands you as well as your best friend did. π
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Yes! You are SO right!
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Haha, loved the gif. Yeah, I’m feeling grateful to have a bestie that i feel comfortable with. I can actually acting like a total weirdo without feeling ashamed.
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The best feeling ever πππ
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Being stupid together… like maybe tying your shoes together… and then running to class without shoes because you can’t untie them π Same though, best friends make boring af classes better.
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SHHHHHH πππππ no one saw that .. hehehehe
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I can totally relate to this. Once I reached high school, I only had a group of friends. They are fun and all but when they split up to hang out with others, it gets awkward. It’s like I lose sense of purpose and don’t know what to do until they come back. I thought I was the only one. Your post let me know that there are others who feel the same too.
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Yeah that really really reallllllyyyy sucks. There’s always so much tension and awkwardness when in highschoolπ₯
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being alone in a crowd..? is that worrying you..?
just imagine the entire crowd to be alone in some way or other..all of us just pretend to be busy to get rid of this lonely feeling
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Thanks hon. We all have our secret battles ππ
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let you win that battle.. even if you lose it, there will be a lesson for you..
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Those were some empowering words. Thank you π
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pleasure.. have a beautiful Sunday
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I feel you. Always when I think I have a best friend, that person has ‘another’ best friend which she is closer with than me. I never had like that one best friend you see in movies and stuff…
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π₯π₯ Same
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She or he will come along..
just be open to friendship
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Thanks for the advice π
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Hey Adelina! I’ve nominated you for the blogger recognition award. You can check out more, here: https://itsatweenlife.wordpress.com/awardss/blogger-recognition-award/
Have an awesome day!
xx, Eve
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THANKSSSS SOOO MUCH. ππππππ
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I totally understand what you are feeling.
Though, I am a little jealous that at least you had a great friend once and cold probably cherish them, somehow.
Anyhow, I hope you find new people and make some new great friends for life and do all that you have always wanted to do.
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Thank you for your such sweet words ππ
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You’re welcome. π
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Yes – I’m pretty lucky – I’ve still got my ‘bestie’ after 45 years (crikey that’s frightening)..
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Wow that’s quite a great accomplishment to be honest. BFFL ππ
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You’re right – it is isn’t it!! xx
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You are telling that you have 6 friends so definitely you are not alone.See in f.r.i.e.n.d.s tv series ,in that gang no one has the best friend,they all just hangout and enjoy each other company.When you still feel lonely sometimes figure out the best ones and try to enjoy being aloneπ
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I understand but I don’t feel super comfortable with many of them. But maybe I’m lucky in my own way too π
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I used to think I was the only one like this but it seems there are people who suffer with the same thing.
It’s just sad that we do not have someone like this but then we might get that person some day.
For me it has always been trust issues I simply do not let any person come so close to me that I could share my deepest thoughts with. I used to be the person who would open up easily but things have changed and I barely tell people ho actually I feel!
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Sorry for the late reply. It really does suck when you have so many feelings but you trust no one with them π . And sometimes when I tell them, they give really annoying responses.
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Exactly! It’s like these people do not have feelings at all and in the end we end up feeling too emotional or vulnerable.
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I can understand this feeling… I am so far away from my friend it hurts.. phone being the means of communication.. I miss my good old days…
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I’m so sorry for this deathly later reply. The good old days were the best π
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Hey hey hey ! π» Am hereee once again? ππ»π Girl, I have been thro it like seriously but guess what i discovered later on…If you are alone, its actually for a purpose. The purpose is hidden. It is that β Just love your own company. In case you want me to describe more? Ill write up a blog post for you. Feel comfortable. Life is good around.ππ
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Hey! Awwww so sweet of you ππ After all the encouragement from my fellow bloggers, I think I’m starting to understand that being alone isn’t necessary a bad thing. I guess it’s one of those things where you might look good on the outside but not feel that good on the inside. Being lonely might not be the best social look, but on the inside, I can still Feel fuzzy and warm ππππ
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Awh.. my best friend is moving away soon, and i’m desperate. I don’t know what I’ll do without her.. I hope I’ll find someone.. π¦
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π₯π₯π₯ I feel you… What grade are you in? I’m in 9th
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I’m in 8th, and I wish I could be in elementary right now and not have homework to do. π
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Hehehehe actually in my experience, 8th grade had more homework than 9th grade ππ
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Oh wow, ahahahahaha! Thanks for the tip then. π
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I get it! I really want a best friend, I have lots of close ones, but no one who really… yeah…
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Lol it’s just such a hard feeling to describe πΆ thanks so much for reading , it means a lot to me ππ
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