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Without a Bestie…

Adelina

Hello beautiful people of the internet!

Can anyone relate to the following stuff about life?

It really really reallllly sucks not to have a best friend. I hang out with a group of 6ish friends and they are wonderful, smart, and beautiful people. But I can’t help but feel left out a lot of times. Sometimes it’s like they are trying to ignore me on purpose….. but then after a few weeks things go back to normal.

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No one in my group has a definite best friend…. and it really sucks.

I don’tΒ have that one friend that I can truly share my deepest and darkest secrets with. The oneΒ where I can talk about nerdy stuff without them thinking I’m too serious. The one where I can talk about family issues. The one where we can make up completely stupid dances. The one where i can run to and hug and cry off all my worries.

I don’t have that one friend where we can be completely stupid together and not care about what others think.

There are 2 people in my friend group that are more…. popular? More socially pleasing? They just know what to say and when to say and they have that magic social charm. And everyone else in my group likes to hangout with them. And it seems like conversations don’t happen too much without those 2 “popular” people.

I don’t know that any one of my friends would consider me as their first choice. I feel all alone sometimes.

I’m not depressed or anything it’s just that I miss the old Β life where I had that definite best friend and partner in crime but she moved away 😦

xoxoxo

~Adelina

54 thoughts on “Without a Bestie…”

  1. I understand very well what you are on about. Not feeling like you have that one person that you can just do you with.

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  3. Yes, I know the feeling only too well.
    It sucks when there are so many people around and yet no one we feel connected to. But you can use this opportunity for self- discovery which will help you meet the right kind of crowd or help you appreciate quality solitude more!

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  5. I feel the exact same thing, I’m always hanging out with different people because I don’t have a constant “best friend”. And when I have out with a larger group, I feel so left out because within that group, there are pairs of besties 😦

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    1. Same. It really sucks because you have to deal with psychology and social stuff from people and make sure no one gets offended. and even if I do find a great buddy, it’s real hard to ask them about this best friend stuff. I guess it just take time.😁😁

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  7. Haha, loved the gif. Yeah, I’m feeling grateful to have a bestie that i feel comfortable with. I can actually acting like a total weirdo without feeling ashamed.

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  9. I can totally relate to this. Once I reached high school, I only had a group of friends. They are fun and all but when they split up to hang out with others, it gets awkward. It’s like I lose sense of purpose and don’t know what to do until they come back. I thought I was the only one. Your post let me know that there are others who feel the same too.

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  10. being alone in a crowd..? is that worrying you..?
    just imagine the entire crowd to be alone in some way or other..all of us just pretend to be busy to get rid of this lonely feeling

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  11. I feel you. Always when I think I have a best friend, that person has ‘another’ best friend which she is closer with than me. I never had like that one best friend you see in movies and stuff…

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  14. I totally understand what you are feeling.
    Though, I am a little jealous that at least you had a great friend once and cold probably cherish them, somehow.

    Anyhow, I hope you find new people and make some new great friends for life and do all that you have always wanted to do.

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  16. You are telling that you have 6 friends so definitely you are not alone.See in f.r.i.e.n.d.s tv series ,in that gang no one has the best friend,they all just hangout and enjoy each other company.When you still feel lonely sometimes figure out the best ones and try to enjoy being aloneπŸ™‚

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  17. I used to think I was the only one like this but it seems there are people who suffer with the same thing.
    It’s just sad that we do not have someone like this but then we might get that person some day.
    For me it has always been trust issues I simply do not let any person come so close to me that I could share my deepest thoughts with. I used to be the person who would open up easily but things have changed and I barely tell people ho actually I feel!

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  19. Hey hey hey ! 😻 Am hereee once again? πŸ™ˆπŸ˜»πŸ‘ Girl, I have been thro it like seriously but guess what i discovered later on…If you are alone, its actually for a purpose. The purpose is hidden. It is that β€” Just love your own company. In case you want me to describe more? Ill write up a blog post for you. Feel comfortable. Life is good around.πŸ’–πŸ’–

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    1. Hey! Awwww so sweet of you 😊😊 After all the encouragement from my fellow bloggers, I think I’m starting to understand that being alone isn’t necessary a bad thing. I guess it’s one of those things where you might look good on the outside but not feel that good on the inside. Being lonely might not be the best social look, but on the inside, I can still Feel fuzzy and warm πŸ˜ŠπŸ˜ŠπŸ’ŸπŸ’Ÿ

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